Wednesday, December 31, 2008

20T: The Mail Boy

Arite so I gotta start this post off on a sad note.

Back in Nov my good friend Micki came back from Cali unexpectedly. I was stoked to have her back but she was all depressed and I played it off as she was just being silly. Well a little shout out to StarGazr on this post too..

Last week Micki and I went out for a drink, random but she wanted to talk. Anyways the whole night she was talking about what went wrong in Cali and I could tell she wanted to say something else but she wouldn't. However I was pretty sure I knew what happened.. I kept saying baby and she would just look at me funny and then keep talking. Well as we were leaving we got in her car and she just turns to me and says "I had an abortion" and starts balling. I instantly started crying and I sobbed "me too" we embraced each other and just balled together for like 5 minutes. And then we told each other our stories. I never felt so close to anyone of my friends. I hated how we both wished we had the baby if it wasn't for fear for the respect of our parents. Stupid.. anyways for all those of you who have had one. I feel for you. I will never forget it or let it go, I continue to mourn on the day it took place and will never live or die and forget it. Whether in this life or the next. I will always remember. Always regret.

On a funnier note... Neighbour boy continues to be out on the porch nearly everytime I go out. I went out on the weekend to go shopping and he asked what I was doing, and I told him. Then I forgot my walet and had to come back. And he just laughed and was like that was quick. I sware he thinks I'm such a dumb blonde. Ive had a stupid conversation with him, fallen down my front porch steps infront of him, slipped on my driveway, got my car stuck, and now forgotten my walet. twice. but he didnt ask me about it the second time. he just smiled. that gorgeous smile. yummmy.

Anyways it sure is keeping my life interested and so is another interesting twist. MailBoy. I was out walking the dog and I was almost home when the dog went crazy and ran away from me. He ran up wo the mail man... but as I got closer he was a boy, well he looked about 25 and gorgeous! I caught the dog and was just like hi and all giggles. He smiled at me and said hey, I apologied about the dog and then hurried in the house knowing I was a fright to look at. But its nice to know that we didnt just move to a borring neighbourhood. Looking forward to exciting and naughty things in the new year!!

Heres to the guys we love
and Heres to the guys who love us
And if the guys we love don't love us
then screw the guys and heres to us!

Happy New Years Girls!!!

Ps. I facebooked my friends (from the baptism) brother Austin, and told him he looked gorgeous at the baptism.. I was just being nice but maybe asking for trouble... oh well trouble will him would deff be worth writing about...

Monday, December 22, 2008

20T: Finally! I played it right!

So very interested weekend...

Saturday, I was looking forward to all week, we were going to a baptism and I just knew Chad was going to be there, and since I hadn't seen him since around the time of my wedding, I was Uber excitied! So Sat I went and got my nails done, tanning, hair highlighted and cut, got a blow out and a new outfit. I wanted to look smoking hot (yes even at a baptism), but play it cool. I didnt know if I could though. I was really worried that once I seen him I would totally colapse with emotion remebering everything that was before and just melt. Anyways so we were pretty late to the baptism and sat in the back. Without my hubby noticing my eyes were searching the room intensely trying to find Chad. Then I spotted him! but no butterflies, or feelings came rushing at me. Definitely nerves though. I felt really nervous and I started to shake a bit. So as soon as the baptism was over I went to beeline it for my friend who got baptised. That way I would have to walk up to the front of the room before anyone stood up and forsure he would notice me, and hopeully stare at me and think "damn" LOL. Then I figured I would go say hello and try not to over talk and play it cool and whatever...

Well this turned out a lot better then expected.

As I went to beeline it for the front of the room about 4 people had stopped me (grabed me!) on the way up so give me big hugs and fuss over my hair and how good i looked! (since I lost 50 pds since Ive seen all these people) just the look in everyones face said it all. I got so many jelous looks too.

anyways I gave my friend a big hug and her mom and dad jumped up and gave me a huge hug (they love me, wanted me to marry their son, whos also hott) and I was totolly loven the positive attention!

then I seen their son, Austin go out to the back of the room. I went out there to say hello, totally passing Chad without noticing him, or letting him know I noticed him. But when I got out to the foyer I was grabed again by a few people. I was excitingly talking to one person, when Chad came up to me and pulled me away from the conver and was like hey!! and gave me a huge hug. I was like "hey! what are you doing here?" (he never comes out to church things, even tho I knew he'd be at this one since hes Austins bestfriend, and it was his siser who got baptized!)

He started talking to me, and I was like have you seen Austin and hes like oh, yea hes right there, and Austin came over and gave me a huge hug and was like you look awesome. I was totally loving it! anyways then Chad was like I'm busting out, and I, interested was like ok have a good one eh, and he gave me this like look, like he couldnt believe I wasnt gonna try to talk to him, and hes like yea (surpised look), say hello to the hubby, I was like I might not, and gave him a wink. And he laughed and was like yea maybe not.

Then I turned around and walked away.

Best it coulda went!! I felt I totally played it cool and I looked amazing and I felt for once, I am no longer intereted in him, but hes deff regretting a few things!

So Very good weekend! And deff, can now cross Chad off my list!


ooh and Friday we had a snow storm, and my car got stuck infront of the house, well i wasn't stuck more then 15 seconds and cute neighbour boy came out and was like are you stuck let me help you..

he helped me shovel out the car, and my driveway and chatted me up the whole time... very hott too. looking forward to the short shorts in the summer!

Hope you all had a good weekend!

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

20T: The next door neightbour

So yesturday my friend Micky came over, she picked me up from work and we had planned to play guitar hero...

Well as soon as I walked in the door, not 10 minutes had gone by when hubby was already bitching about the mess, the dishes, how much of a slob I am blah blah blah.

First off: Cant you piss off? I have my friend over, Dont bitch at me! jeeze!

Second: Can I walk in the door and sit down for a second? I just got off work..

Third: ok our house is as neat as a pin. beside the off sock that our dog grabs and pulls into the other room, our house is spotless! seriously I wish you could see it, then you would know how redic he is being

Fourth: Back to being hubby, that didn't take long eh girls? What 2 days and he was nasty again. Dont get me wrong of course I love him, but hes just not very nice, hes mean to me, and I dont know what else I can do to point it out to him!

Arite so thats my gripe.. moving on

So Micky and I hung out for the evening, we made tacos for dinner, walked the dog, watched some CSI, and called actor friend!! it was such a great conver! He just had some big audition for a movie so we called to see how it went. And he talked to us for like 20 minutes and it was a lot of fun. Deff the highlight of my night! we were being such high school girls on the phone too, ohhs and awws and yea.. but it just felt good to hear his voice. Is that lame? I've missed him..

So anyways this morning when I left for work, I tripped down the stairs only to see this SUPER HOTT GUY at the house next door to me shoveling the driveway! He smiled at me, stiffed a laughand said "hello". Well stupid me said" hello" but I also said "did you come by just to shovel the driveway? that was nice!" I thought he didnt live at home.. but he must have an older brother or something.. anyways he gave me a funny look and was like "well I sorta have to.." anyways I went to my car and noticed that my sidewalk was shoveled. Well stupid me again goes over to him and was like "Did you shovel my sidewalk?" hes looking at me funny and was like "no". Embarrased I was like "oh, well I was gonna say thanks to you but I guess my hubby did it! I didnt know he got up that early. I guess I better tell him thanks! Have a good day!" He said "bye".

But could I have talked anymore? I kept telling myself to shut up and he deff thinks Im a creeper and I bet hes totally regretting saying hello in the first place, and I told him I was married.. so that puts a damper on this whole thing..

I know, for lack of a better phrase, I cant "keep my dick in my pants" LOL always thinking about boys

Anyways when I drove off he waved goodbye.. so maybe he didnt read into it all...oh well I may get my adventure yet...

20T: It's not enough

This post didn't post on Monday... so I am posting it again!

So hubby and I had a heart to heart Sunday night. After he was being a jerk again all weekend as I was still feeling overly stressed.. and I had had it with his nonsympathetic, yelling, mean attitude. So anyways I told him that it really hurt me, and I was second guessing marrying him because I dont think he takes care of me, and that I am scared to have kids with him because I don't see or feel the honest love anymore, and I was explaining how hes always angry and yelling at me and that I feel like I am walking on egg shells all the time. Anyways he started crying and apologized profusly and said he never wanted to lose me, I remained a little hard, not willing to give in to it. I've heard his apologies before. It was actions I wanted.

Well he was very sweet to me for the rest of the night and yesturday (Sunday). He went to bed with me, did the dishes, and came with me when taking the dog out. Tonight (Monday) I came home and he had a little candlelight dinner made for the two of us. I was/am deff very shocked by all of this. I mean truthfully that is the guy I feel in love with. We are an amazing team and a great couple.

Yet it's not enough

I find my mind wandering like crazy lately.. wanting that adventure that new love brings. I know I should be satisfied with my perfect hubby, my perfect house, job, dog, but its not enough. Am I crazy? Of course I dont want to screw it all up but I cant help feeling empty.

My life has always been so predictable. I need something. I mean why does that something even have to be a guy? but of course it does.. as u know thats just how I operate... I will be seeing Chad this weekend and my mind is whirling... but why do I want to start up something again with him? I know where that leads, to a very dark place...

I've been reading the book series Twilight, and I am so jelous of bella. I want a guy that holds me like that, who looks intently at me, who stirs up something in me..

I know Im married. Thats the sad part. Its like my life is over. now all I have is death. I've kissed childood goodbye... my teenage years are long gone

It's funny, I went for a walk on the weekend, to explore my new neightbourhood and we have all these walking trails at the end of the street. I chose one and I just thought of how exciting this is, to be living in a new place, a new neighbourhood.. yet I don't feel an adventure...

You wait your whole childhood for love, for your wedding day.. but once it's over I dono what do you look forward to next? kids? not interested yet.. I am still too young and my mind is to over the place.... I guess I'm feeling lost.

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

20T: Birthday Pains

So it was my birthday on Thursday, 23! Wow I feel so old and mentally I still feel like I'm 17 so new in the world...

Anyways so I was really sick on my birthday, and I had to get medication from the docs, which I started on Wed... so things were going ok, I still didn't feel that good on Friday, actually I had begun to feel cloudy and almost like I was high... by Friday night it had gotton a lot worse but I assumed it was just my meds. So I took my meds right before I went to sleep on Friday night hoping that the meds would wear off by Sat morning as I had adams work brunch to go too and sat night was our big open house.

Well I was right about one thing.. it was the meds... I woke up extremely high and out of it.. hubby calmed me down and got me to go back to sleep. But when I woke up in the morning no affects had left me.. it was much worse. I was still high, dilusional, hullcinating, and shaking. I felt like my brain was bleeding and tingaly all over. I was panicing and that sure as hell didnt help. I told all this to hubby and he told me to have a shower and get ready for his work party. I did but the feelings wernt going away. He said I would feel better once we were on the road.. gullible I got into the car with him and prepared for the hour and a hlaf drive to the place for brunch. 15 minutes into the ride I was in hysterics. I was so scared and creaped out and felt so weird! I thought I was dyiing. I wanted to go home but hubby wouldnt take me. He told me to shut up and relax. I was so upset but so out of it and scared I didnt want to be alone.. anyways I freaked out for the entire trip I tried to stay calm but couldnt. when we go there I went right up to the bar and started drinking. I had drank 5 bottled of water in 10 minutes, trying to get whatever was in my system out.. i asked adam to leave and he wouldnt... it was so horrible. I never hated him so much.. anyways all in all it was ok. talking to people took my mind off my high and drinking water was helping me pee it out but I didnt feel right.. we went home after about 2.5 hours and the ride home was a bit better... I went to lay down when we got home but I kept getting the brain bleed feeling and being all naucous and shaki... people started arriving for my birthday and I was a wreck, and tryig to push back the tears... hubby kept yelling at me to grow up and snap outta it.. i couldnt... anyways when my bestfriend arrived she got on the phone and called the pharmacist.. after about 10 minutes she came over to me and said I was having severe side affects from the meds.. I was having hallunincations and a nervous system breakdown.. I had to eat, drink, and stay warm.. So basically the rest of the night everyone took turns taking care of me. at one point my best friend wanted to drag me to the hospital. and hubby flipped out in front of everyone that I was over reacting and that I was fine.. even tho I was shaking.. he looked like such an asshole... so Joe and Abby (my best friend) took me to the bed room and put me to bed and were sitting with me, and trying to calm me down and make me eat.. actor friend came and visited me a few times, hes had an overdose before and was pretty worried.. he kept bringing me a heating pad and watching the size of my pupils... anyways so I finally got to sleep, Sunday was much better and by Monday morning I was pretty much back to normal... but what a crazy weekend. So here we are on Wednesday and I dont feel right about teh way my hubby treated me.. I'm still pretty upset and scared about it. like how he could be so cold and cruel when I needed him.. anyways so thats that. but our relationship is deff back to rockly ground.

in other news..

when we were packing Joe asked me what happened on the night of the accident, aka what was i doing with actor-friend that night... luckily hubby walked into the room right then and Joe said nevermind.. he knows something was up.. but had the respect to drop it, although I dont think this is the last of this conversation..

also Chad msg me on facebook.. wished me a happy birthday, asked me what was going on, how I was doing... I wrote him back today (a lil over a week later) turns out he will be playing hockey the same place as my hubby on sat nights... we'll see how this goes..


Anyways sorry for all the posts and rambling! Just wanted to update you all! Hope you're all doing well!

20T: Moving Day

So it was the day of our big move and all the guys showed up to help and my mom. Micki ditched.. I was kinda pissed but whatever... the day went by pretty good I wasnt much help but the guys did like everything. But they were all flirting with me... Ken kept putting his arm around me and making jokes with me, actor friend kept giving me the eyes, and then Parker (hubbys older friend 32 ) kept trying to hit me with a hockey stick. I ended up shoving me and he grabed me and picked me up in front of all the guys and made quite the spectacle.. guys are so redic.. but i was loven the attention.. although Ken kept telling me that he knew what was going on and stuff.. i didnt know what that meant.. I thought maybe actor-friend has said something to him so I was kinda nervous..

anyways so we finally got the keys to the house and moved in and the guys stuck around to unpack us and put together our IKEA furniture... Ken left at this point and I gave him a big hug and he made me walk him out the door and was like were gotta sleep together right? and at first it took me a moment to realize wat he said, but when I did I smacked him and he started laughing, winked at me and then got in his car and drove off.... I mean sure funny, but turst me there is truth to what he said.. i cant believe these guys, I sware i must have a sign on me that says PLEASE FLIRT WITH ME: DESPERATE FOR ATTENTION

anyways when I went back inside everyone was bascily working in partners and Actorfriend and I ended up working together.. on some stupid stupid IKEA peice that for the life of us we could not figure out how to put it together.. although we had so much fun.. at first it was awkward like usual but then we kept smirking each time someone said, put it in that hole, thats too big, shove it in there, screw this, haha bascilly all the childish jokes and phrases you could think of we were diing laughing half way through the project and having such a great time.. until hubby and Joe came over to see how we were doing and kicked us out for being too slow.. we ended up having a beer together in the kitchen... actor-friend said that was the best time he had in a while, and told me about his gf he just broke up with and blah blah... we were having a good chat and time together.. but still that flicker in his eyes and prob mine.. i dono if being friends will ever work... but it was a good time... anyways so we are now all moved in!

20T: I'm Back

I'm back ladies!

I know I said I was given this up to devote my life to my husbend and all things good but turns out life has a different idea.. so I decided to catch you all up on what has been happening! So when I left off we were moving that weekend... so Friday night comes around and Micki pops over with Lium. I am so not a huge fan of Lium. He tried to steal me away from my hubby wen we were frist dating, and a whole lotta crap along with that. anyways Micki loves Lium. But Lium is a self centered ass. Anyways so back to the story.. they came over to our apartment on Friday night, even tho I was practically in bed and made me go out to a club with them. Well I hadnt seen Lium in like 2 years so he was gaping at me. since I've lost 50 pounds now! So I played it up to my advantage and tried on a million outfits for my "hubby" after him telling me each one was too short and too tight i ended up going with pants and a shirt. Lium pulled me aside and asked suductively if I was going to take my pants off in the car.. i gave him a devalish smile and replied yes... so that was that.. we went to the club and the whole time Lium was following me around pointing out all the guys that were staring at me, calling me a celebrity. he deff felt proud to be with me.. Poor Micki.. anyways I was exhusted by the end of the night, and sick of being grabbed and propositioned by ever guy there.. so they took me home and I am vowing never to go to a club again... we'll see how that holds up but I am so sick of those gross guys. although some were cute but I wasnt there to pick up...

anyways ok so Sat night we were finished up packing when Ken (formally called Max and Steve in this blog, I will now be calling him Ken, easier to remember) called us over to play cards. we went over and Joe had picked me up a bottle of white wine, which i love.. well an hour into a boring game of cards and i had unknowingly finished the whole bottle! needless to say I didnt last long and had to go home. I was sick the entire night, which then turned into being sick all sunday why we packed and continued to feel ill on Monday during the big move..